Building on Love in the time of Covid-19

by: Nanie Narciso

Couples Therapist

Everyone expresses and responds to love in a different way. Dr. Gary Chapman presents a simple truth: relationships grow better when we understand each other.  
 
Here are helpful, practical examples of how you can build on your togetherness through the 5 languages of love even while in home quarantine.

1.  WORDS OF AFFIRMATION:

• I don’t know how I could survive without you beside me.
• We can get through this together.  
• Thank you for always thinking of me.

 
2.  GIFTS

• Here’s a flower I picked from the garden.
• I bought your favorite spam at the grocery today.
• I found this bracelet that you thought you lost while cleaning your car.

 
3.  QUALITY TIME

• Let’s watch your favorite re-runs of Star Wars.
• Why don’t we play our favorite childhood game (maybe with a twist – strip poker)
• You have always wanted to learn Spanish, maybe we can try that together.  

 
4.  ACTS OF SERVICE

• I called your Mom and got the recipe of your favorite adobo.
• Why don’t I watch the kids so you can take the afternoon off.
• You look tired, why don’t I clean and do the laundry today?  

 
5.  PHYSICAL TOUCH

• It must be hard sitting in front of the computer the whole day.  How about I give you a back rub?
• Holding hands while watching TV

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Article based on “The 5 Love languages: How to express heartfelt commitment to your mate” by Dr. Gary Chapman.